Love and friendship
is crying and smiling simultaneously.
love is like a delicate fragile boat on which you ride through the
turbulent seas: afraid and unsure if it will survive the storm. But
knowing that you are protected in the midst of the storm, is what
we often forget or neglect to see. Without love, this journey would
be impossible, so turbulent and tumultous, without the shelter of
this vessel, however fragile, that to survive would be impossible.
is getting up in the morning and thanking your stars for the person
beside you. Through the turmoil of the night when the fears unincumbered
by the laws of nature shower their wrath on the sleeping you, this
person puts a hand across you and through that touch, you feel the
comfort and get the security that all is going to be well.
is about feeling. Love is too honest to feel good all the time. Love
is about bravery to feel what 'is' ... regardless. Although feeling
good about yourself all the time is a nice fantacy I'm not sure it's
honest. Love seems to be more about feeling who you are, even the
parts that you may not wish to accept... then it's possible to make
friends with yourself and feel good in some way about yourself but
you have to do this for yourself ..... yes ! that definatelly is LOVE-ing
yourself, but no one but you can do that for you. Someone you love
and who loves you can simply assist in revealing yourself to you and
supporting you while you create a friendship with your 'soul' (if
that's an acceptable word for it)
is a itch in the heart that you cannot scratch
is a splinter in your brain that drives you crazy that you cannot
reach and it can either drive you mand or tickle you to new heights.
- Love in English language is a very broad term, it
includes all sorts of loves. There is no distinction in the word itself.
The variety of love is determined by the context in which it is used.
But then the ambiguity of expressing and perception can cause misunderstandings
and hence it could be received and viewed with suspision. Perhaps
it is this reason that lovers are (either implicitly, and sometimes
explicitly) cautioned not to use the word love, even though there
might be genuine love brewing.
This is resolved in other cultures/languages by using different words
to express differnt kinds of love. For instance, Tibeteans have 14
words for love, distinguishing from Altruistic love and Selfish love
(both being on the love scale but diametrically opposite) and all
the forms in between and on other scales. While the abstraction in
the English language allows to represent what really happens... an
admixture of these various forms of love to some extend, it becomes
hard for us to understand the concept of love and what one means when
he/she says, "I love you!". It is for this reason, in my
estimation, that love becomes such a subjective issue. That is my
interpretation of the statement can be very different from yours and
so on. My understanding of the word, my past experience, my general
disposition, my partialities and my present attitude will dictate
how I interpret the assertion.
The fact remains though that no matter what kind of love is expressed
and intended, it often times strikes a chord deep within us that other
emotions fail to tickle.
So ladies and gentlemen, love someone altruistically and you will
(as I am sure most of you already have) appreciate the pleasure of
giving yourself selflessly. And I wish upon you that you be loved
- Love is caring
for another person, love is compassion, love is protectiveness, love is
- Is love a compromise?
- If love is so
chaste and devine and noble as it is made out in the literature, how
come there is an inherent anxiety associated in declaring one's love
to someone? Is it because love is understood so varidly and subjectively
(look previous points) that the supposed misunderstanding that it
can lead to, makes a lover apprehensive of declaring one's love? Or
is it the vulnerability that causes anxiety? By vulnerability, I mean
one of two things or possibly both of the following. First, by exposing
a deep emotional sentiment to someone who may or maynot understand
the genuinity and severity of the expressed feeling is liable to react
callously. Or second, even if the feelings are intellectually understood,
they are not felt and hence not reciprocated can cause unsettlement
on part of the party that declares one's love.
question is, do these sentiments represent selfishness? Wouldn't a nobler
approach entail courage to display the emotions despite these uncertainities
and continue loving despite unreciprocated feelings/sentiments? But
then what is one to say of intensity? At what point unrequiited love
turn into stalking? Or is that a fair comparison?